Using orgasm denial to enhance relationship

Some call it edging, some surfing, but whatever the name is, there is no doubt male orgasm denial is an experience close enough to sexual epiphany. The idea behind it is simple. You get your manhood worked up to the brink. Your partner then stimulates you in a state just a few seconds before the point of no return.

While an orgasm can usually be an indicator of good sex, sometimes the lack of an orgasm makes sex even better. For some, orgasm denial, or the practice of intentionally refraining for orgasm is the ultimate goal. Carol Queen , PhD and Staff Sexologist at Good Vibrations , explains everything you wanted to know about orgasm denial but were too afraid to ask:. It's generally done within the context of a dominant and submissive partner.

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By Cheyenne Macdonald For Dailymail. Orgasms may have evolved as a bartering tool to keep sexual partners coming back for more. A new study has shed light on the evolutionary purposes of intense sexual pleasure, revealing how these feelings act as positive reinforcement between partners and can, in turn, motivate our behavior. These 'rewards' may have arisen as a way to maintain control in a relationship and even ensure reproductive success, preventing men from seeking other mating opportunities and keeping women from abandoning the father of her children. And as women experience orgasms with far less consistency than men, the researchers say female pleasure may be a much stronger form of reinforcement.