How to get a guy talking

Bravo TV's Millionaire Matchmaker , Patti Stanger once told me that when it comes to meeting men, we want to get them to come talk to us without having to speak. Whether you're aiming to give off feminine energy only, or you're shy, or you're in a really loud club, or you're just plain in a foreign country where few people speak your language like me—I'm in Brazil right now , it's good to know how to get a guy to come to you without saying a word. On my flight to Rio, I sat in the back with a bunch of deportees. When we landed, there was an announcement that anyone without a passport or visa had to wait while we deplaned. I thought, Who comes to a foreign country without papers? That's when I heard about the U.

How do I get him to talk about feelings? I admit that this is something I need to learn more about myself. The truth is that I want him to be more chatty, able to traverse multiple topics at once and more open to share his feelings. In other words, I want my man to be more like a woman. We women make that mistake often; expecting our men to act like women. As Ben discusses, they are more open to connecting on a real emotional level, you just may have to teach them how.

Some people waltz right up to a person they find attractive and flat out tell them. Proceeding to ask them out—without an inkling of fear or uncertainty. So how do the shyest of the shy snag a significant other? Well, they mastered the art of getting a guy to talk to them instead of being the first person to break the ice.

Never fear! Not only can you get his attention, but there are also things you can do so that he approaches you first. Making a guy come talk to you can be as simple as being confident and catching his eye when he looks your way.