Being on the backburner means that a man considers your relationship to be an option for him and not a priority. This may be someone who that you have dated a few times, in which case he may text you for hours and then disappear or it could be someone that you are in love with and been seeing for years, secretly and on the side. Not all backburner relationships are secret. Sometimes the man will tell the backburner girl that she is not the one, but she can stick around and keep him company until he does meet someone more important.
In Praise of 'Back Burners,' the Lovers That Exist Mostly in Your Head
In Praise of 'Back Burners,' the Lovers That Exist Mostly in Your Head - VICE
Sometimes a fairytale comes along, but it might be too good to be true. We all want to believe that we are the dream girl of the love of our lives, but it turns out that feelings are not always mutual. Some men like to have the best of both worlds - like keeping a woman that they know loves them around to feed their ego while juggling other women. This kind of man has commitment issues, and will probably never change, we promise.
Until I met my current boyfriend, I was a huge proponent of always letting someone linger on the back burner — keeping one foot out the door created a safety net of sorts. Social media , especially, makes it easier than ever for us to maintain these relationships. Henry says he and the majority of his friends always have a few people on the back burner. But he lived hours away, which was a deal breaker as far as Matt was concerned. So, after a few dates, Matt moved this guy to the back burner.
If you ask me, it should be kind of a no-brainer that keeping someone on the back burner is a crappy thing to do — after all, no one deserves to be strung along by someone they have a potential romantic interest in. But unfortunately, it still happens, and new research reveals that it might be an even more prevalent behavior than we realized. According to a new survey of college students from researchers at Hope College, most young adults have at least one person who they consider a "back burner" relationship. Of those surveyed about their technological communication and relationship status, almost 73 percent said they have someone on the back burner — and that's not even the worst of it.