Adult child of abusive parent

Verified by Psychology Today. Liking the Child You Love. Are you exasperated by how negatively your adult child treats you? Do you find yourself consumed with conflicting thoughts and feelings about him or her? Before I go further, let's make a few things clear: I am not writing that all adult children treat their parents poorly.

Emotionally abusive parents are manipulative, cunning and toxic. Brilliant impersonators these narcissistic fakes create a world of " alternative facts". Scapegoating is reinforced by siblings falling into the "rescuer" trap. Such positing subjugates the child into submissive gratitude for even existing, feeling confused, humiliated, angry and filled with self-doubt. The child feels unacceptable in basic ways. Belittling, condescending and hurtful: " When I was your age, I could…", "Everyone else Such stitches bind a complex pattern of mistrust and abuse.

An emotionally abused child who does not , as an adult, face the truth of their childhood is in great danger of repeating the cycle of emotional abuse with his or her own children. It is absolutely urgent that people become aware of the degree to which this disrespect of children is persistently transmitted from one generation to the next, perpetuating destructive behavior. Unfortunately, because emotional abuse is often tolerated or because the abusive parents are very secretive in their abuse hiding their true selves when in public , emotionally abused children will assume that how they were treated at home was natural. They have no frame of reference. Emotionally abused children will not always become emotionally abusive parents , however.

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