My man wants a threesome

In our sex-obsessed culture, it often seems like wanting a monogamous relationship makes you some kind of freak. If you shame him, you might make him uncomfortable and reluctant to talk honestly about his feelings in the future. This is especially important if you think you might want to pursue a serious relationship with him. So — surprise, surprise — you noticed him checking out your best friend, and now he wants a threesome with her. Once you cross the line and let someone else into your bed, is he going to think that anything is fair game? By Rachel Brewson.

Registered in Ireland: Now, he has asked if we can have a threesome with another woman. I am also worried that if I refuse, he will do it without me. No offence, but you really are going out with a dope. Threesomes are an extremely intimidating concept and the idea needs to be broached with the utmost sensitivity and consideration.

My hope in penning this piece is to approach a topic that is not widely discussed because folks fear being judged. My promise in what follows is to avoid that kind of shame-based discussion and get right down to brass tacks. According to several lines of research, we already know that nearly half of all gay men have had an open relationship Duffy,

Illustration by Niallycat. My First Time is a column and podcast series exploring sexuality, gender, and kink with the wide-eyed curiosity of a virgin. We all know your "first time" is about a lot more than just popping your cherry. From experimenting with kink to just trying something new and wild, everyone experiences thousands of first times in the bedroom—that's how sex stays fun, right?