My boyfriend and I didn't necessarily hook up the first time we met but we were definitely hooking up for a long time before we decided that we were officially dating. In fact, I'd say there was about three months of ambiguous undefined "Wtf is this" territory before we even discussed becoming exclusive. And I don't think our story is unique either. In this day and age, lots of relationships start off as hookups.
If You Want It To Be More Than A Hookup, Don't Do These 12 Things
Here's How You Know You're More Than Just A Hookup To Him
It started out as harmless fun. All you wanted to do was hook up and then go home to sleep in your own bed, but something happened, and now you actually like this guy and want more. The question is, how can you suddenly upgrade yourself from just a hookup to his girlfriend? Make him miss you. Instead, avoid him sometimes. If you both regularly hang out at the same places, change your routine. Step up your texting game.
7 Things You May Not Want To Do If You’re Looking For More Than Just A Hookup
Either a girl is a hookup, or she's a relationship girl. Most guys already can tell whether you're just a hookup or a relationship girl after the first couple of times they see you. That being said, it's not a total snap decision on the guy's part. There are ways you can make it clear that you're a relationship only kind of girl.
The thing is, if a man wants to be with you, he will do whatever it takes to have you. He was passive in his approach, and you enabled his behavior. Maybe you started out as friends, or met through mutual friends, which made you comfortable hooking up right away. You were just having fun, but then, you started feeling things. Hanging out and hooking up once a week or every now and then was okay with you.